I have always been open and direct with her. And I talked to him the same way I would talk to my friends. And when she was in high school, that included dropping a swear word or two if the conversation warranted it. While Lauren didn`t pepper her speech with profanity when she was a younger teenager, she does now, and I don`t mind at all. I had met children through online games who were about 13 years old and quite cleverly cursed. I think in appropriate situations, swearing improves speech, and my fiancé©and I tend to use pretty colorful expressions. However, I also find it disturbing to hear young children swearing without fully understanding the meaning of the words. (I should say my husband hasn`t finished swearing. He doesn`t like it when Lauren sometimes utters a dirty word, and he calls her every time and lets her know he doesn`t have it. ) I don`t think it`s wise or necessary to let a child curse in conversations with their parents in order to maintain a good relationship. Interacting with your child as a “peer” or “friend” is a big mistake, and while it`s not obvious at this point, it sets a bad precedent not only for the family relationship, but also for the broader question of what is accepted in our society as a whole.

When it comes to using swearing at home with tweens and seniors, a flexible approach is often preferable. One family I worked with in therapy allowed three curses per week per family member. Of course, my granddaughter Lauren is sweet, intelligent and always respectful, kind and beautiful, inside and out – a true testament to my daughter and son-in-law`s upbringing. She never said a word of curse around me, and as Aliya says, she never did. However, I am still worried. I believe that in the relationship between parents and children, boundaries must be set from the beginning to firmly determine who is the ultimate authority figure. Having an 18-year-old daughter in this society is fraught with so many worries and worries. Does she have sex? If so, is he making the right decisions? Does she feel good? Is she safe at school? Is it outdated? Does she drink? Does she smoke? Does she take drugs? Is it negatively affected? You can`t put your head down at night without taking care of something.

The last thing that worries me is that Lauren is herself and genuine when she talks to me. If the worst thing is to occasionally let slip a bad word while we talk that I have to deal with, I`ll consider myself lucky. As a recently retired English teacher, this topic was at the forefront of disgust and sadness. It was so annoying to hear young teens use vile swear words against teachers for telling them to stop texting or having fun in class. Too bad for the clueless substitute teacher I knew, who was called the worst names imaginable. Have these students ever learned how hurtful swearing can be? The swear word in that sentence did the right thing: he let me know that it was a serious matter and she was very upset about it. I`m sure many people would take it as a sign of disrespect that Lauren felt comfortable enough to drop the F-bomb in a conversation with me. Swearing is sometimes allowed, but never to humiliate or intimidate anyone, inside or outside the family. Some parents allow their tweens/teens to swear out of frustration, but forbid obscene slurs. There is a big difference between swearing to elbow the toe and cursing someone in a humiliating way.

I also have an 18-year-old grandson who has lived with me in the past and is more like a son. He knows better than cursing around me, but it slips sometimes, especially when he`s talking to his friends and I`m nearby. He always says, “Oops, I`m sorry, Grandma” and gives me a pimple on my cheek. I like that he realizes that what he did was wrong. Language that incites violence: This is language designed to incite people to violence or illegal acts. The BGH in Brandenburg v. Ohio, 395 U.S. 444, 89 pp. Ct.

1827, 23 L. Ed. 2D 430 [1969] contained further guidance stating that the promotion of illegal activities is protected unless “such promotion is intended to incite or cause imminent illegal acts and is likely to incite or produce such acts”. Even at six years old, my daughter knows that this is essentially my attitude towards these “swear words”, and understands and uses her vocabulary accordingly (in other words, at this point, she does not curse or curse). There are certain dividing lines between parents and children that should remain static. Swearing should not be allowed at any level. It seems that we live in a time when the fabric of respect between adults and children is becoming weaker and weaker. What happens when a child not only drops swearing, but curses an angry parent? The idea was that the curse could be kept for something extremely frustrating instead of spending curses lightly. This entertaining approach has been surprisingly effective, eliminating the need for parents to punish or blame.

While the constitutionality of these laws can be challenged, few states make it illegal to curse minors. In Georgia, for example, swearing in the presence of someone under the age of 14 is considered disorderly behavior, while Michigan recently repealed an outdated law that made it illegal to curse a minor. I don`t think kids should ever be encouraged to swear, but I think you need to make some space to allow for the occasional curse. As a middle school teacher, I had to find a way to deal with this issue with my students in a way that was adapted to the classroom and left room for children from different backgrounds with different expectations at home. I found that the answer I used with them is also very suitable for home with my own child. I always told my students that they would look smarter and do better if they used a broad vocabulary and applied it accurately. While it`s probably not a good idea to curse in public, most states won`t punish you for it unless it`s followed by threats or words of combat.